What happens when the kitten falls in love with the old guy.
he is strange and unashamed
let’s talk about Geoff his gay robot sidekick
he speaks the truth
he gives zero fucks
he’s creepy and he knows it
he is a Doctor Who fanboy
he asks celebrities questions that we would all ask them
he… um, cares about women’s health?
he’s the embodiment of tumblr
most importantly he doesn’t take himself seriously and loves his job Craig Ferguson deserves all the love
four for you, Craig Ferguson. You go Craig Ferguson.
You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.
If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”
On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.
The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.
There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?
Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.
This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.
So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.
For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.
an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)
HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.
Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.
It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.
I will always reblog this. Always.
Well he missed a pretty god damn big one didn’t he
u fucked up, Tony
u fucked up big time
you had one job, Tony
what if he did find it though?
what if after the avengers, he just archived the data, fully intending to look at it all later, and then kind of forgot about it because he was too busy trying to tinker his trauma away?
what if after iron man 3 he got bored one day, went through his data banks, found all this damning evidence, and figured it out?
what if he found out during winter soldier and tried to contact someone, but steve and natasha were already underground, fury was faking the dead, hill was with fury, coulson and his team were being held hostage on the plane, clint was nowhere to be found, thor was in asgard, and bruce was on vacation in hawaii?
what if he couldn’t do anything about it because he’d gotten rid of all the suits?
what if he was building one from his old files and going to try to do something about it, but then jarvis brought up the news and all he could do was sit there and watch the helicarriers fall because as good as his tech was, it still couldn’t finish the armor fast enough for him to help?
what if he knew but he couldn’t do a thing to fix it?
bilingual my ass. you’re either heterolingual or homolingual
look how silly this is! oh my god? you have to like do— oh. oh, oooh. oh. oh, oh, oooh. ooooooooOOOOO. ooooka— arin, don’t leave..! arin doNT— aaaaAAARIIIIInnn, I LOVE OYOOOOOO— NO, IM FUCKIGN DONE!!!! IM F UCKING DONE!! no youre not! THIS IS BULLSHIT!!!! im gonn a c— THIS IS FUCKING BULLSHIT!!! wh i cant— i C ANT C GET OFF!! WHAT IS TH IS ?!?!??!??I CA NT GET OFF!!!! WH AT IS THIS??!????? IM STUCK!! WHAT IS M Y LIFE?? ahhAaAHHA— I CAN T DO IT , JOn>. I CANT EeE— I CANT FUCKIGN D O IT., I TELL YOU W H AT ARIN, YOU CAN G I VE UP NOW, OR YOU CAN sEE IT OUt, BECAUSE I CERTIANLY CANT DO IT WITHOUT YOU, AND I KNOW YOU CANT DO IT WITHOTU ME .i appreciate it, BUT LOOK AT WH AT WE’RE DEALING WITH MAN!!!ahha„ ARin-YOU GOTTA DRAW THE LINE SOMEWHERE!! YOU GOTTA DRAW THE F UCKING LINE IN THE SAND, DUDE., WE GOTTA MAKE A STATEMENT. YOU GOOTA LOOK INSIDE YOURSELF A ND SAY,WWHAT AM I WILLING TO PUT UP WITH TODAY?? NOT FUCKING TH IS!!!!!! AaaaAAAA IM S U P ERMAN I BELIEVE I CAN FLY!!!! I BE LE ei eve, arin that was a beautiful little moment we just had. i think a both of us got a little heated? —a aaahh…— and we should apologize to each other. its because we’re in a lava stage, dude. —yUO JUST COME BA CK ALL CALM ‘its because we’re in a lava stage, dude.’ that was beautiful, arin, that was like poetry.
This is… literally the funniest thing ever. I… I watch this scene so often. Really. I could be in any mood for any reason and THIS will have me laughing. I promise.
it’s funny that the only people who are accused of “breeding hate” are marginalized people calling out bigotry
bigots, on the other hand, are told how ~brave~ they are for not giving in to the ~liberal agenda~ or whatever
hmm…it’s almost like…”hate breeds hate” is just a silencing tactic…to use against marginalized people…
I still think “hate breeds hate” is true. It really does.
Bigotted douche-nozzle who hates ENTER-MARGANILIZED-GROUP-OF-PEOPLE-HERE. Said people then, I dunno, probably hate aforementionned douche nozzle. Said group expresses dislike (in healthy and non healthy ways). Outside viewer ship spouts “hate breeds hate” at only one half of the problem.
Hate Breeds Hate is true, but yeah, not used correctly at all. That’s why there’s even a problem between white and black people now, there’s white people who still believe black people aren’t people, and that weakens to the next group that, ‘oh they’re people but they’re not as good as white people’ and all sorts of other shades of racism. And that’s depicted and shown (or not shown by not even having black people in anything). White people show their hate/dislike/lack of care first.
Black people react because, dude, that’s fucked up and they should. Then there’s this whole, “White people are assholes, look at what they’re STILL DOING.” and it breeds hate and distrust towards white people. White people are racist, they fear change, they hate us so why not hate them?
Not every white person is a racist douche-nozzle swizzle stick. Not every black person hates all white people for being racist douche-nozzle swizzle sticks. But there’s a certain underlying HATE in both races based on these things (as individuals it’s less or more but as a whole). Some feel it more powerfully than others, some not at all, but hate does breed hate. It’s just the minority that’s loud about the injustice paid them that gets the “hate breeds hate” shit.
From. White. Douche-Nozzle Swizzle Sticks. HUH.
Just because a comfortably easy to say saying is used by assholes to supress a group and try to silence them doesn’t make it any less true.
Also this basically applies to anybody getting flack for “hate breeding hate”. I’m white so you can call me racist if you want, I’ll gladly apply this exact same argument to gay / straight (I’m a girl with a girlfriend) if it makes you more comfortable because I’m on the side of getting flack.